I AM SORRY I STOLE THIS QUOTE FROM MY FAVOURITE ADVERT. Honestly, l am one of those really negative people you can never get used to. I am the one most likely to spot the negative before l can admire the positives. It’s a curse l tell you and at first l was not sure how to change this negative trait of mine. Believe me l knew about it and tried to destroy it but it is practically impossible. I actually never noticed it till l was in my last year of high school and my friend called me out on it. I was truly shocked because we negative people never see that trait in us.
My journey in learning how to admire the positives was a very difficult one. Believe me, I was eighteen, a teenager, waiting for my results and was very definitely single. There were not many positives in my life at that time. I challenged myself to say something good to my family, friends and even strangers at least once a day. It was hard.
Slowly, however it became a habit. I was able to compliment my sister on a well-fitting dress and be able to keep quiet about most of the negative things on the tip of my tongue. THERE is a difference between being negative and a genuine need to correct a wrong situation. A negative person will say that is an ugly dress paired with even ugly shoes. A genuine person will say try and pair that bright dress with shoes of a lighter colour. There is a big difference between the two l am slowly learning.
Now to the issue being discussed today, learning to see and admire the positives all around you. In our economic situation here in Zimbabwe it is practically impossible to see a brighter today, l won’t even talk about a brighter tomorrow. We are constantly shown the high unemployment rates which increase by the day. Recently, when l was talking to my sister who is about to graduate from university, she made a joke about the unemployment rate saying soon she and her friends will finally push the unemployment rate to 91%. I know it is sad.
You can become one of the people who can admire the positives in 3 simple steps.
1 SEE SOMETHING POSITIVE IN YOURSELF
Yes l want you to sit down and evaluate yourself and say 10 nice things about yourself. It might be hard at first and since no one is looking you might do this in the morning and be done with it. It is ok however soon you will start to think about even more nice things to say about yourself. Then slowly you will begin to say eleven things about yourself till you are comfortable with yourself. Step one is finally complete you can proceed to step two.
2 SAY SOMETHING NICE TO YOUR FRIENDS AND TOO STRANGERS
This is when it becomes hard. Admiring someone and saying something nice to them. I admit it’s a really tough one but slowly you will learn. In the Kombi compliment the stranger seated next to you. It can even be about their shoes find something nice about them. Regularly compliment your friends so that when they see you an automatic smile fills their faces.
- SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT YOUR CITY, COUNTRY AND CONTINENT.
Yes in that order find something nice about your city. Bulawayo is such a nice and calm place which gives you a chance to admire the trees. Notice l did not add BUT, OR, IF because those words kill a compliment. How would you feel if someone said your dress is nice BUT it would look better on your friend? That is what l am talking about learning to compliment. As tough as it may be, you might end up being one of those people able to look forward to each and every day.
In conclusion it is very easy to be negative all the time. It takes a lot of practice and effort to be nice to ourselves let alone our friends and strangers. I promise you the reward is worth all the effort you will put. Everyone be like this duck and chill in the ocean of positivity.
All pictures used in this article are not mine.