DON’T BE NEGATIVE ABOUT BEING POSITIVE

I AM SORRY I STOLE THIS QUOTE FROM MY FAVOURITE ADVERT. Honestly, l am one of those really negative people you can never get used to. I am the one most likely to spot the negative before l can admire the positives. It’s a curse l tell you and at first l was not sure how to change this negative trait of mine. Believe me l knew about it and tried to destroy it but it is practically impossible. I actually never noticed it till l was in my last year of high school and my friend called me out on it. I was truly shocked because we negative people never see that trait in us.mistake

My journey in learning how to admire the positives was a very difficult one. Believe me, I was eighteen, a teenager, waiting for my results and was very definitely single. There were not many positives in my life at that time. I challenged myself to say something good to my family, friends and even strangers at least once a day. It was hard.posi

Slowly, however it became a habit. I was able to compliment my sister on a well-fitting dress and be able to keep quiet about most of the negative things on the tip of my tongue. THERE is a difference between being negative and a genuine need to correct a wrong situation. A negative person will say that is an ugly dress paired with even ugly shoes. A genuine person will say try and pair that bright dress with shoes of a lighter colour. There is a big difference between the two l am slowly learning.

Now to the issue being discussed today, learning to see and admire the positives all around you. In our economic situation here in Zimbabwe it is practically impossible to see a brighter today, l won’t even talk about a brighter tomorrow. We are constantly shown the high unemployment rates which increase by the day. Recently, when l was talking to my sister who is about to graduate from university, she made a joke about the unemployment rate saying soon she and her friends will finally push the unemployment rate to 91%. I know it is sad.

You can become one of the people who can admire the positives in 3 simple steps.

1 SEE SOMETHING POSITIVE IN YOURSELF

Yes l want you to sit down and evaluate yourself and say 10 nice things about yourself. It might be hard at first and since no one is looking you might do this in the morning and be done with it. It is ok however soon you will start to think about even more nice things to say about yourself. Then slowly you will begin to say eleven things about yourself till you are comfortable with yourself. Step one is finally complete you can proceed to step two.mean to you

2 SAY SOMETHING NICE TO YOUR FRIENDS AND TOO STRANGERS

This is when it becomes hard. Admiring someone and saying something nice to them. I admit it’s a really tough one but slowly you will learn. In the Kombi compliment the stranger seated next to you. It can even be about their shoes find something nice about them. Regularly compliment your friends so that when they see you an automatic smile fills their faces.

  1. SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT YOUR CITY, COUNTRY AND CONTINENT.

Yes in that order find something nice about your city. Bulawayo is such a nice and calm place which gives you a chance to admire the trees. Notice l did not add BUT, OR, IF because those words kill a compliment. How would you feel if someone said your dress is nice BUT it would look better on your friend? That is what l am talking about learning to compliment. As tough as it may be, you might end up being one of those people able to look forward to each and every day.relax

In conclusion it is very easy to be negative all the time. It takes a lot of practice and effort to be nice to ourselves let alone our friends and strangers. I promise you the reward is worth all the effort you will put. Everyone be like this duck and chill in the ocean of positivity.

All pictures used in this article are not mine.

 

 

WHY BEING BETRAYED IS THE BEST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN TO YOU!!!

Betrayal is like an induction test you need to get into the exclusive world of business. It separates the boys from the men and girls from women. Yes everybody this is a test you need to pass and l am providing you with the cheat sheet with all the answers. Even we librarians face this test from time to time.

Have you ever been deeply betrayed by a colleague who used you as a stepping stone to success. Then let me guess you then went around o your friends in the office ranting about the unfairness of it all and painting yourself as a victim of malicious sabotage. Well my friend you are not alone. As much as people always tell us to be prepared for the worst in business but we never are. So now let us discuss the best ways to deal with such an act.

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I understand most people might think this is easy as you are simple trying to express your anger but you are forgetting one significant detail the offender also views himself as an innocent who was forced by circumstances. So in this situation instead of being angry and shouting try and explain it to them how angry their actions made you. Yes people talking over stuff is not something only reserved for women? Even though it might not achieve much it relieves the anger in you.

Sulking

Yes if something this bad happened to you, you are given a free ticket which allows you to sulk but only for a day. You do not want to destroy all your friendships by holding grudges and refusing to talk. There is a thin line between being angry and being immature do not cross it. Give yourself a couple of hours to blame the offender for all the bad things that are happening into your life and how you want to make them suffer. That brings us to point number 5.

Plan the most elaborate revenge plots

No one said you have to mature about but remember plan it do not implement it. Think of the most complicated plan which will cost a lot of money and include even celebrities like Sylvester Stallone to say in his amazing accent that revenge is a dish best served cold. You are even allowed to form an evil laugh and cackle to yourself for the whole day. Remember just one day do not exceed that.sylvester Funny Sylvester Stallone MEME

Forgive Them

This is the final and most crucial step FORGIVENESS. Yes even though they do not deserve it and will most likely do it again just forgive them. Remember you are not doing it for them but for you. Release that grudge so that it stops being your problem and weighing you down. That is the only way you can make it in business.

Get betrayed, follow these steps then and most importantly let it go. Yes as hard as it may be if you don’t let it go you are only hurting yourself. Most importantly remember what does not kill you only makes you stronger.strong

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Librarianship is a male dominated industry: FACT

womenHonestly when l chose librarianship the honest truth is l did not want to do what everyone in our family had already done. I chose librarianship because most people l know looked down on the profession and my friends at high school laughed because they thought librarianship is done by those not academically gifted. I chose librarianship because when l thought critically about it l thought l was cleverer than the rest because the fewer we are in the profession the higher the chances of getting a good job with very little competition. Thus l entered into this profession to become a female librarian.woma

As much as most people may deny it librarianship is a male dominated industry. It is the males with the highest positions of power and who get to make the tough decisions while we weak and delicate females are put on the front desk to deal with the patrons. Though we may be many in numbers there is a glass ceiling which limits our promotion to the top positions. The males are given the challenging tasks and women are sidelined. 

The ironic thing is that males are not the culprits this time it is us females. Have a problem with operating the computers ask any male colleague to fix it for you. You are not sure about a decision to make again ask your male colleague.download

However, now you are having problems with the flower arrangement call the female colleague. There is a child misbehaving again call the female colleague. Just because l can arrange flowers does not mean that l am not capable of handling the technical stuff.

That is the major reason l remain a librarian so that l can challenge the status quo. I became a librarian because l know that l will be able to bring glory to be a female librarian. I became a female librarian not because l am some kind of feminist or l am a control freak but because l want to make a difference and l believe in myself enough to know that l can.  That is why we need to stand together and reclaim our power.wom